A 22-year-old woman sought relationship guidance from singer Simi, confessing she’s currently dating a 30-year-old man who has a child, and seeking advice on how to navigate this complex situation.
Responding to the 22-year-old’s query about disclosing her relationship to her parents, Simi offered words of wisdom:
“Depends on what both of you want out of the relationship. If you’re talking about your parents, thennyou likely want to take this seriously.
So if this is serious, a child (especially someone else’s) is a big deal. If it seems like it’s not, it should be. Because 1. it shows how involved he is in his child’s life.
2. It shows how detached or attached you
are from the fact that he’s a dad. If you’re only doing this only because you “love him
so much”, don’t.
If it’s more than that, for the both of you, then trust that your parents will understand and support you or do it without their support.
Whatever you choose, you have to live with. He’s seen more life than you. So make sure you’re sure outside of him”.
Simi’s response sparked a lively discussion on social media, with many users sharing their opinions and advice on the 22-year-old’s situation. Here are some reactions:
nma_hrh wrote, “Omo I can’t advise anyone to date a single dad o. The wahala no be here.”
prettyj_oyce wrote, “22 years dating a single Dad? Is it not too early for her to inherit stress?”
she_sentinels wrote, “Dont do it.….. let parents date parents..”
africanflamingo wrote, “She should focus more on bettering herself, finding her path and making money at young age than love. Merci”
iamscott wrote, “Suddenly no girl fit date single dad? But una dey hunt married men like bush meat? What’s really going on??”
say_no wrote, “Worse thing that can happen to a young girl is to date a single father or divorcee. Your eyes will see what your mouth cannot say”
dee_sangonuga wrote, “Say no to marrying used men. I wouldn’t even touch them with a 10 foot pole”.
