In romantic relationships, women can sometimes lose their sense of self, behaving like spouses to partners who have not made any commitments.
Unless he formally marries you through legal means or in an authorized place of worship, refrain from doing these five things for a man who is not your husband.
1. Do not relinquish your career or educational pursuits:
If you are not married, you should feel empowered to pursue new opportunities—whether it involves studying in another country or taking a job far away. Regardless of his assurances, don’t sacrifice your future for him. A person who genuinely cares about you will encourage your aspirations rather than hinder them.
2. Avoid moving in with him:
There is no requirement for you to gather all your belongings and cohabit with a man as if you were married. While spending the weekend together is acceptable, don’t take on the responsibilities of a housekeeper—cooking, cleaning, and handling household chores for him.
3. Avoid giving him your savings or a large sum of money:
He might have ambitious plans that require financial support, but you should never provide him with your life savings. While it’s acceptable to give him gifts, don’t transfer money that could severely impact your financial situation, regardless of how persuasive his narrative might be.
4. Don’t forsake your friendships for him:
Maintaining your friendships is essential. Don’t allow your partner to become your entire universe, and avoid distancing yourself from those who truly care about you. Make sure to allocate time to enjoy your friendships as well.
5. Steer clear of getting pregnant for him:
Unless he has committed to you with marriage, refrain from engaging in unprotected sex. Don’t consider having a child as a way to secure his commitment. Always keep condoms and birth control accessible. Being a single mother is a significant responsibility, and children should come after marriage.
Keep your personal boundaries intact until his proposal confirms his long-term intentions.